Everyone has flaws. Everyone. Not everyone recognizes their flaws, but I do. They're easily enough to spot. I'm not embarrassed by them, not really. I deal with them the best way I can. The best way I know how. I have many many different ways I use to alleviate the depression or anxiety that I am occasionally plagued with.
Here is the thing you need to know while dealing with anyone who has emotional or mental troubles. Be nice. Please don't assume that because we wake up without being chipper, smiling, or laughing that there is something wrong, or we are depressed or anxious. Perhaps take the big picture into consideration. Did we stay up too late, drink a little, and need coffee to clear our fuzzy heads? Did we not get enough sleep? Are we hungry? There are so many reasons we aren't standing there smiling constantly like a loon that have nothing at all to do with the chemical imbalance in our heads or hearts. Don't automatically assume we're having a bad day. Give us a chance or just ask.
And while I'm on my soapbox, telling us to smile, telling us to be happy, telling us to cheer up if we are having a hard day? Does not work. DOES. NOT. WORK. You can't change the person you're with, you have to allow them to change themselves, to work on themselves. If you don't, if you push? Well, I can only speak for myself when I say, I won't be there to see what happens next..
If you love us like you say then reread the above statement. "Someone who really cares about you will take one look at your flaws, shrug, and love you anyway." Don't tell her/him/me that you love us/me unconditionally, just as we/I am and then judge us unfit. It just makes you look like an asshole.
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